I recently read a friends FB post that stated….. “If I don’t push you, I’m cheating you”. (thanks Dennis Hopson)
I immediately hit the like button, as I agree with this in
the arena of sports. I then began to
think about it a little deeper (anyone that knows me knew this was coming)…Hmmmm,
this not only applies to the sports world, but also to the work environment,
and even more so….. parenting!
If you happen to be one of those people that automatically
gest defensive and salty because your boss/supervisor gives you feedback (hopefully
in a professional manner), on how to do
something different/better/correct, then that person refuses to grown
professionally in my opinion, and I’ll leave that right there J. #choices
As for parenting…there is and will be NO participation
trophies in the Brooks household. #TeamBrooks
takes pride in pushing the Brooks girl to do their best in whatever endeavor
that they choose to participate in.
Sometimes the pushing is minimal and not required at all…..other times
there are stern words (sometimes several…lol), but followed up by positive
interactions and explanations of why we are pushing them on this
particular subject.
I really feel that it is our duty/expectation as parents to
NOT cheat our children in any way….be it sports, school, dance, chores,
whatever! Unfortunately we all see those
parents that push, push, and push and never take the time to explain
WHY they are pushing. Some seem to think
it’s okay to live vicariously through their children, or to push their children
to goals that they may have set for themselves as kids/young adults, but never
achieved.
Take the time to talk, but more importantly “listen” to your children….see what “their”
dreams/aspirations are for themselves….then work with them (pushing them if/when
warranted) to hopefully achieve whatever it is.
Very important to remember, it’s okay if they do not happen reach their
goal/objective/aspiration, they are still YOUR child…be proud of YOUR child’s attempt(s)..…encourage
YOUR child to continue to set goal/objectives…especially if they have failed previously.
Anyone that really knows me, knows I thank my parents &
brother for pushing me to do well in school, for asking me if I wanted to be
just “average” (YEP….I totally hear my parents coming out of my mouth with I
talk to my girls..lol)..… for encouraging me to play multiple sports, for putting
up with the dribbling of the basketball in the basement for hours on end, for
allowing my brother and I to destroy the garage wall for pitching practice (my
brother made a strike zone square drawing on our old garage, and pitched so
much that he blew holes in the side of the wall…dude could throw!), for the
neighborhood friends and families that allowed us to hang out at each other’s
houses, play in their yards, discipline/check us when we were wrong or on that
path to being wrong.
Again, my blog...my opinions, no intent to call anyone out or offend anyone. Of course if you are offended.....those that know me know exactly what I'm thinking....LOL
Thanks for taking time to read.....Out!